Thursday, December 24, 2009

Do Not Be Afraid

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"Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you: he is Christ the Lord." Luke2:10 Merry Christmas Dear Friends and Family! Enjoy and rejoice in the birth of our Saviour!"

 

I saw this today on Facebook from a dear friend of mine whom I'm missing this Christmas. I couldn't have said it better myself, Suzanne!

 

Merry Christmas to all of you

and may God bless your time with friends and family!

Thursday, December 17, 2009

A Bookmark Gift Idea

Those of you who know me well know that I'm not gifted in the "crafty" department. Oh, sure, I can copy other people's ingenuity, but coming up with it on my own is, well, a challenge. I'm craft-challenged.

Anyway, my MOPS group (Mothers of Preschoolers) has a craft for us to do every meeting, and our last craft was so cute and functional (and cheap!) that I immediately thought of all the people in my life (and my daughters' lives) who needed one of these bookmarks for Christmas!!  (I only wish I had the time to make that many...)

Maybe you, too, are stumped about what to give your child's teacher or another friend or family member and maybe you could use a craft to copy like I could. So, here goes:

Step 1: Buy wax string and beads of your choice at your local craft store. Cut the string into strips about 18 inches long.


Step 2: Make a double/triple knot about 3-4 inches in from one edge of the string and then string an ornamental bead (like a silver charm or large bead) on the end, knotting it, so it will stay. Then add a bead or separator (small bead), doubling the end of the wax string back on itself, so that it will go into the beads and be concealed. 


Step 3: Add several beads (I did 5) in any pattern you like, knotting the string after the last bead to keep them from moving (it might take a double knot).


Step 4: Starting at the other end, make a knot 3-4 inches from the end (it might take a double knot). Add beads (I did three medium sized with small ones for spacers) to that end, then tie a double knot at the end. Snip off the remaining string and wa la! Homemade bookmark!




Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Spreading Some Christmas Cheer

Because I could use a good laugh right about now, as I'm knee deep in another Christmas "season" (see my previous post), I thought I'd share this with you.  I hope you are finding the cheer this month!

Friday, December 11, 2009

The Christmas "Season"

Christmas stresses me out.

I know I'm not the only one, and, honestly, I know that right now, from where I sit, things are pretty darn good and that isn't the case for everyone.  Too, I know all the reasons why this "season" causes me to focus so much on things instead of the real reason, the birth of Christ.

The problem is, knowing all of this doesn't keep me from falling into the stress trap this time of year.  There are a ton of things to get done.  Presents to buy, trees to decorate, lights to hang, cookies to bake, cards to address, carols to sing, etc, etc.


Don't get me wrong, I love our family traditions - that is why we continue them.  I'm an absolute fan of this Christian holiday during which we, as believers, publicly pronounce our faith (even though many work to mold it into a commercialized mess) and are tangibly reminded of the fact that our God came to earth to teach us, and serve us, and sacrifice all for us.  I just wish my personal experience of this "season" wasn't so busy that I often miss the most important parts.


I was listening to the radio today in the car, and _The Little Drummer Boy_ came on.  Shortly before that, a song by Amy Grant titled _Silent Night_ (not the one you're thinking of) was played, and the lyrics spoke of the busyness of the Christmas "season," and the singer's pleas for a truly silent night amidst the craziness of shopping for gifts and holiday parties.  Later, the disc jockey came on and invited the listeners to tell their friends about that radio station and how it played Christmas songs with "real meaning."

That got me thinking.  I thought about how wonderful it would be (and stress relieving) to not feel so obligated this time of year to buy and do.  How, that night, when our King was born, a little boy's gift of music was appropriate, and even valued.  How we create such a burden on our time and financial resources this time of year to show appreciation for those in our lives within a small window of time.

What would it be like if we all took time to truly appreciate those around us all year long and didn't need to do so just in this "season?"  What if we showed our appreciation in the currency of our choice - one that we could, beyond any doubt, afford?  Would we then be freed up to be still in the moment, reflecting upon the meaning of a God child and how that would forever change our world?

I don't know.  I'm very aware of just how much I, in my humanness and uncanny ability to get distracted by the tiniest of things, need an annual reminder of Christ's birth and all the relationships in my life that I appreciate.  Otherwise, I suspect that due to sheer distraction, years might go by before I would find myself reflecting upon all things Christmas that matter.

I suppose the trick, for me, is to avoid the common pitfalls that come with what is a worldly, highly commercialized and often exploited holiday, and express my faith and the overflowing love that it produces to those around me in a way that is uniquely mine.

I suppose that is really the challenge to all of us.

Just some thoughts I'm pondering this month.


Monday, December 7, 2009

Seriously?? The Things Parents Say... Part 2

So, I might have spoken too soon with the submission of my last post.  Believe it or not, I have been collecting these parental comments for some time now, waiting until I had most of them before writing my dissertation rant to the blogosphere.  Silly me, thinking I had said them all.

Alas, literally moments after posting part one, I emerged from my office to find that my youngest had some artistic inspiration of her own that she couldn't contain in her imagination alone.



Done in blue ink, here are Denali's artistic additions to our couch, bathroom sink, and ottoman. These are the three largest, thus they would show up best in a photo for the blog, but rest assured that there were other spots where our budding illustrator chose to leave her mark (my comforter, her walls, some random boxes that are still sitting around the house unpacked).

So, I add to my collection of parental comments one never thought they'd have to say outloud: "There is no drawing on the furniture!"  Which reminds me, I forgot to add "It's not OK to flush mommy's wedding ring down the toilet."

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Seriously?? The Things Parents Say...

This is a shout out to the parents who read my blog (and an attempt to make myself feel better for the experiences I go through daily).  I just have one question for all of us.  What is up with the things we have to say to our kids that A) we never thought we'd hear coming out of our mouths until it flies out of our lips, and B) we never thought would be necessary to actually have to say???

You know how some things sound so ridiculous, like they should be common sense and no one should ever have to be told?  We have some laws like that, there are policies in every organization like that, and I'm beginning to think that the complete disregard for common sense must stem from when we're children.

Obviously, rules have to be made because somewhere, at some point in time, someone actually committed an act so shockingly ridiculous that the rest of us needed to be told it isn't allowed.  

Here's a sampling of "parental comments" that I've said at one time or another over the past 8 years (and counting...):
  • Don't lick the table!
  • Why is there poop on the wall?
  • Don't chew your shirt.
  • We are not taking a worm home for a pet.
  • Leave the cat alone - it's not ok to pull her tail.
  • There's no dancing in the wine dept. at the grocery store.
  • Leave the cat alone - she does not like baths in the sink.
  • It's not ok to suck water out of a wet towel because you're thirsty.
  • Don't chew the pencil eraser, or the metal that connects it to the pencil, or the pencil, or the pen.
  • Put the dishes in the dishwasher (no, that's not my job).
  • Leave the cat alone - it's not ok to shut her in your room all day long.
  • Take your hair out of your mouth.
  • The couch is for sitting, not jumping.
  • This is a restaurant, not a jungle gym.
  • Don't chew on your toenails.
  • Please shut the door when you use the bathroom (regardless of where we are).
  • If it's not food, drink, or a toothbrush, it doesn't belong in your mouth.
  • LEAVE THE CAT ALONE!!!!
Whew.  I know it must sound like I spend all day correcting my kids from their feral behaviors, and that's because I do.  It just seems like sometimes some of these things should go without saying.  Doesn't it??  I guess, I'll just keep saying them...

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Lost In Translation


Here's part of yesterday's conversation coming from the backseat as we waited for her 
big sister to get out of school...
 
Denali: "Mom, what are the bumpy things behind your ears?  Your whackers? 
What did you say that was again?"
 
Me: "Denali, I'm not sure what you're talking about."
 
Denali (frustrated): "You know, the whackers!!!"
 
Me (after much confusion and deep thought) : "Do you mean wax?  Ear wax?"
 
Denali (laughing): "Oohhh!  Wax!"
 
 
...It must be tough trying to learn language and all about the world at the same time!! 
And, yes, I'm still confused about the"bumpy things behind your ears" 
- maybe she needs a bath... 

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Breakin the Rules

Sometimes you just have to break the rules. 

You know those days when what you had planned isn't exactly what you wanted to do with your precious little time?  Or, more accurately, when what you had planned was just exactly opposite what you wanted to do?  In fact, have you ever felt like going through with what you had planned would cause unnecessary stress, hardship, pain, and suffering??

Well, today was one of those days for me.  What I had planned was to meet my trainer for the last of our appointments at the gym.  What I REALLY wanted to do was anything but meet my trainer at the gym.  Seriously

Root canal?  Ok! 

Change a friend's kid's blown out diaper?  Sign me up! 

Just don't make me endure one more session of weight lifting with the trainer who will not listen to me now matter how much I tell her I loathe that particular form of exercise!! 

I mean, I'm not afraid to sweat.  I LOVE spinning, swimming endless laps in a pool, and running triathlons.  I'm no stranger to the gym, and under any other circumstances I doubt I'd be so adamant.  What is it about this trainer that makes me long to crawl under a rock and hide?  What is it about lifting weights that makes me wish I could go poke pins in my eyes instead??  Why, when I volunteered for this, am I IM'ing a friend with less than 13 minutes before my appt. so she could make me feel better about the way I was feeling? (Thanks, Sunny, for your unwavering support!)

Anyway, so what I had planned today was just SO not what I wanted to do.  So, I didn't.  Instead, Denali and I went to In n Out Burger and the park for lunch.

I hope the guilt doesn't eat me alive...

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Be Still

I've been noticing lately an increasing stirring in me that is becoming more and more difficult to ignore.  This stirring is my need to do, to be more, to strive for something higher. 

This innate desire of mine that I've seen throughout my life is not necessarily a bad quality - it has caused me to push myself further than I thought I could go (as an athlete, as a mother, as a human being).  The problem with it is tricky, though. 

It often begs me to compare myself to others, which inevitably leads to my feeling inadequate - unfocused.  It's a distraction, and not always a good thing.

I write all this because in this moment, I've noticed a longing for something...  I don't know what.  Just something else.  A new job...no job... another baby... a vacation... rearranged furniture... fill in the blank.  I'm all over the place and I seem to have lost focus.  Now the big move is complete, and there is no big project for me to spend my energy on.  I find simply being and savoring the moment unnaturally uncomfortable.  What is that?

"Be still and know that I am God" (psalm 46:10)  has always been a verse I've been drawn to.  I have a sneaking suspicion that maybe it is because being still doesn't speak to my gifts.  But, I've always wished for the ability to simply hand all my worries and cares over to my God, and let Him be in charge.  Since He is anyway.

So, as painful as it is, I'm going to force myself to take no action.  I'm going to resist the unbearable temptation to find a volunteer  position or a paid position or some other distracting position to swallow up all my time.  I'm going to just be still and wait for inspiration. 



In the meantime, I love this song and am amazed as I ponder all of God's creation pictured in this video.  I hope it inspires you, too, and helps you to be still, if, like me, that is what you need.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Freak of Nature

Why does my body have to fight me so?  I've started going to the gym regularly (I've written about this before), I'm working with a trainer at the gym who's having me lift weights (which I HATE to do), and I've been careful about not adding calories to my days even though my increased activity screams for them.

All of that effort, and it never fails that once a week or two go by with regular exercise, I GAIN WEIGHT!!  huh?  Isn't it supposed to work the other way around? 

Throughout my adult life, whenever I go through an activity lull, I ALWAYS lose weight.  When I was training for triathlons, working out like two hours every day, I kept waiting for the weight to melt off.  But, no - I actually maintained or even gained a few pounds during that year of intensity.  This last summer, with all of the craziness of moving, the intensity of the heat, and my two month long headache, I was not exercising much at all.  Yep, I lost about five pounds.  ??

I mean, where's my built in incentive to keep trudging away on the treadmill and meeting that lady who makes me try out all the stupid nautilus machines at the gym??  I've lost my CO running buddies, so now I don't even have their great conversation to prompt me to keep moving. 

All I have now is a higher number on the scale.  Yipee.  Oh, and I suppose the knowledge that I'm taking good care of my health...

(And, if you're tempted to comment about how muscle weighs more than fat, or anything about how it's not the scale that is the measure of good health - tell that to the trainer who, after weighing me, told me that I'm "overfat".  I'm only slightly bitter about that still.)

sigh

Monday, November 16, 2009

The valleys

I have this great calendar (from The Purpose Driven Life) hanging on my kitchen wall, and every month there is a new inspirational saying to focus on for the next 30 ish days.  As soon as I turned the page on my calendar this month, I knew I'd be blogging about November's saying.  It is timely for me personally, and I hope it inspires you, too.


"God wants to BUILD our faith in the valleys. We love the mountaintops... but we build faith in the valleys. When we come face to face with a dark valley, we get on our knees."

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Remembering today

Today marks one year since we lost our third baby to miscarriage. Throughout the time since this unspeakable tragedy in our lives, I've been amazed at the number of women I've met who have suffered this silent grief - and blessed by their strength and support, and that of all of my wonderful friends. Thank you, to all of you who've been my rock and soft place in the tough times.

Like all grief, it is a process, and healing is happening. I found this song, and it really speaks what's in my heart - for my own lost baby, and for all of us who have been through the pain of losing a child before they were born. I know one day I'll meet our little one, when I go home. For now, I'll have to be content to know the perfect arms of our Saviour hold our baby, until we can.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Random Acts of Kindness

So, I love to watch the Food Network, and this weekend Ina (of the show _Barefoot Contessa_) was testing a recipe, but was at home alone and would not be able to eat the whole meal, so instead, she called a friend to ask if she could use a cooked three course dinner for her family that evening. Her friend was surprised and very pleased (who wouldn't be?!?), and I was struck at just how out of the ordinary it is that something like that happens to us in our daily lives. (Yes, I know this was likely staged for the sake of the show, but stay with me, here.)

Inspiration struck me yesterday morning in the Starbucks drive-through and I spent the rest of the day thinking about it. What if we all practiced random acts of kindness - maybe just commit to one each day - what kind of impact would that make?

You know how it makes you feel when you do something unexpected and thoughtful for another person, expecting nothing in return? At least for me, it is a feeling not replicated by anything else in life. But, somehow, in the busyness of life, I often overlook the opportunities all around me to make someone's day.

A few days ago, this news story played on our local station, and it struck me, too.



This lady went to great lengths to find the owner of this camera, and did it all not expecting anything in return, much less news coverage.

Won't you join me in "paying it forward"? As we head into the Thanksgiving holiday, I'm going to take time each day to make someone's day (preferably a complete stranger).

If you're stumped for ideas, visit actsofkindness.org and go make a difference! :)

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Presidential Quotes

In honor of Election Day (which is today, for those of you who aren't heading to the polls in your state), I thought I'd post some interesting Presidential quotes. At least, they're interesting to me...



We must never despair; our situation has been compromising before, and it has changed for the better; so I trust it will again. If difficulties arise, we must put forth new exertion and proportion our efforts to the exigencies of the times.

~ George Washington

A pen is certainly an excellent instrument to fix a man's attention and to inflame his ambition.

~ John Adams

That government is best which governs the least, because its people discipline themselves.
~Thomas Jefferson

I have been driven many times to my knees by the overwhelming conviction that I had nowhere else to go. My own wisdom and that of all about me seemed insufficient for the day.
~Abraham Lincoln


The only man who makes no mistake is the man who does nothing.
~Theodore Roosevelt

I have never been hurt by anything I didn't say.
~John Calvin Coolidge

We should not let our fears hold us back from pursuing our hopes.
~John F. Kennedy


Every new day begins with possibilities. It's up to us to fill it with the things that move us toward progress and peace.
~Ronald Reagan


Monday, November 2, 2009

A Head Start On New Year's

Yesterday, Kyle and I took the plunge (no, not THAT plunge - we did that over 15 years ago...). We finally joined a local gym.
We've been dragging our feet about this, but talking about it for some time. Now that we've been here 5 months, we thought it was time to, A) admit we're really local residents and put down some roots (the gym membership is a two year commitment), and B) get serious about our fitness again.

So, today marks day one of our new fitness regime - we are both restarting the Body for Life plan that has been remarkably successful in the past at bringing our fitness levels up and fat levels down in a short period of time.

Why am I blogging about this? Accountability, people. I need it.

Will you hold me to it?

Better yet, will you join us? :)

JoAnna's Day 1 so far: cut out sugar and cream from my morning coffee, ran on the treadmill for HIIT workout, drank 12 oz. of water and counting...

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Cupcakes and Gingerbread girls


Here are some pictures from Halloween 2009. Enjoy!






















Friday, October 30, 2009

Rocking the Boat


Have you ever noticed that when one member of a group, whatever the group might be, is off balance, the whole group loses balance? In this case, the group I'm referring to is our family, but I think this principle applies to all groups where people interact with and depend upon one another - including friends, clubs, churches, schools, governments, charitable organizations and for profit businesses.

(Now, many of you may find yourselves thinking about members of your own family that are off balance, but try to stay with me here - this is an easy way to get distracted, and I've already written about how I'm losing that battle lately...)

Anyway, this week was a week of change and family-member-off-balanceness (is that a word?). It wasn't any one member who was off balance at any given time, and, at least this week, it wasn't always me.

One person in our family this week got sick (again), another had some difficult challenges personally that caused an emotional setback. The rest of the family members, who weren't the boat rockers at that given moment (believe me, we all take turns!), just tried to hold on and keep things moving in the right direction. But being unaffected was not an option, even though some of us might have wanted it that way.

The details are less important than the big picture. What is important to take away from this week, for me, is that one member of the family who is experiencing drama of any kind can easily rock the family boat. Whether or not one person realizes it, their drama impacts the other people in their group - sometimes in minor ways, sometimes in not-so-minor ways, but there is always an impact. But, there's also always an opportunity to come together as a group and overcome one person's struggle together.

Then, I got to thinking about my own drama (yes, occasionally, I experience a tiny bit). My thoughts turn to something I heard years ago about how the wife/mother of a family is often (or always) in a position to set the tone for the entire family. The phrasing was more eloquent than, "if momma ain't happy, then no one's happy," but it had the same sentiment. It's a big responsibility, and one that I don't always successfully engage in, but so true in my experience. When I start focusing on my family, and less on my own "stuff," the whole group is better for it. And, when I have some type of personal struggle (because we all do) and it's my turn to rock the boat, I can always rely on my family to rally around me, because I'm not in this alone.

It's not really rocket science, it's just interesting to me at the moment that we're so interconnected. In a world where many of us sometimes feel all alone (myself included), when you really think about it, even the littlest ripple in one person's life can make an impact on so many others.

Just a few things I'm pondering today...

Monday, October 26, 2009

A close call

Apparently, I've been... what's the word, oh yeah - distracted lately.

Before yesterday, it had been over a month since I last mowed the lawn (good thing we're in the slow growing season, and it's not abundantly obvious to everyone who drives by our house!).

I don't know the last time I gave our house a good cleaning - the kind where all surfaces get cleaned, floors are vacuumed and mopped, furniture is dusted. I'm talking more than just spot cleaning here and there. It's been awhile.

This blog has been neglected, and posts are few and far between.

And, on Saturday, a very real example of my state of distraction got my attention in the form of a minor traffic violation. Luckily, no one was hurt, but, honestly, that is by the sheer grace of God.
I was driving to the store, and we stopped at a red light. I was thinking about where we were going, the shopping I needed to get done, the woman in the car next to me who was shielding her face from the glaring sunshine, etc. etc. The traffic light changed, and I started driving through the intersection. The next thing I realize is there are cars honking and I'm not sure why. Then, I realize they're honking at me. I had run through the red light, apparently thinking the green left turn arrow was a green light, when it wasn't. I was already three quarters through the intersection, stopping both oncoming turn lanes because I wasn't paying attention. I saw no other choice but to just keep driving.

I quickly scanned my rear view mirror and the surrounding area for a police car, and was relieved to see that there was none. From the back seat, Bri asked why the cars were honking and I had to admit to her that I just ran a light because I was distracted. She asked me if I was going to jail, and I told her that I thought I was safe from that particular penalty, although, if a police car pulled me over, I would certainly get a ticket, and I deserved one.

Then, I got to thinking how frustrated all those people must have been with me. God only knows what they were all thinking or saying about me, and I was defenseless. I was guilty, and there was no excuse. My first instinct was to think about how I would defend myself - I've got a lot on my mind, it'd been a long day, I was tired... Then, it hit me.

What I needed was not a great defense for my behavior or to deflect my bad judgement by pointing out how my offense was small, comparatively speaking. No, what I needed was grace.

I was guilty, I made a poor decision, and I could have seriously hurt someone (including the two precious children in my back seat). And, truth be told, there have been so many other times that I've been guilty with no defense, but walked away without having to pay (sometimes traffic related, lots of times not).

So, I'm just so thankful today for grace. And for other drivers in my neighborhood who were not distracted on Saturday. If you were one of them, please accept my apologies.

Either way, I hope you are able to extend grace to someone in your life today - what a gift it is to receive.

Friday, October 23, 2009

Please excuse the dust

I'm ready for some change and my blog is a reflection of that, so... It's a work in progress. :)

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Tuesday, October 13, 2009

A Pandemic


Kyle returned home at the end of last week after working in Phoenix and woke up the next morning with a full on case of the flu. Literally, one minute he was feeling fine, the next he was miserable. It was quite something to watch. And I was so thankful that I was the one watching it, not going through it.

He spent the next 72 hours in bed with a ridiculously high fever, and I felt compelled to wake up through the night to check on him and make sure he didn't need to go to the hospital or wasn't having seizures due to the fever. Luckily, he started to get better yesterday, and besides a fainting episode around midday (he was up and moving around, but had eaten very little for three days), he was apparently on the road to restored health.

Then, yesterday afternoon, I picked Bri up from school to find her with a fever and complaining of a headache. Here we go for round two...

Denali and I publicly proclaimed that we are the healthy two in our household, and the virus will not take us down. It won't.

Today, I'll spend a disproportionate amount of time doing load after load of laundry. If it's fabric and washable, it's getting thrown in. If only I could figure out a way to hose down the inside of the house without destroying much of it... Let me see, where's the clorox spray??

Saturday, October 10, 2009

What do we know of holy?

I was at a small group this week and getting to know some people here a little better and something struck me during a conversation with a woman and her husband. They are new to the church and are planning to be baptized soon, and we were talking about raising our kids in the faith and how hard that can be when we feel like we don't know it all or have it all together ourselves. And I wonder if I ever will have it all together.

There was no discussion about this, but my mind turned to the spiritual elitism that I've seen in the church that can easily pollute this young couple in the faith. They were talking about how it was intimidating to come to church for the first few times because they are so new to Christianity, and I was thinking about how it was intimidating to me because I was so new to the area. Different but the same - we were both being fed the same lie. I felt compelled to welcome these two children of God into the family, and assure them of their great worth - with or without all the knowledge they seek - they know Jesus and that is what is important to Him. Really, what else to do we need?

He speaks to each and every one of us individually - in a way that only speaks to us because He knows us inside and out. And He wants us to know and seek Him in the same way, with the same passion and intensity. When I think about that, I'm humbled to think that He cares that much about me - all my flaws and failures included. Like this couple, He loves me even though I don't know all the great Bible stories by heart and never went to VBS as a kid.

Later that day, I was driving and this song came on the radio by Addison Road. I've heard it at least four times since our meeting last week, and keep thinking about posting on this topic. I am finally getting it done. Enjoy the song and ask yourself, "what do you know of holy?"

Monday, October 5, 2009

The Harsh Truth

I love running to the music of Dave Matthew's Band - the lyrics are edgy and culturally relevant, and get me just angry enough to get through that last mile. This morning, when I broke my current running drought (my headaches are finally GONE!), I heard this song - "Mother, Father." It got me thinking about the state of our world today.

While I am living in my comfortable home and driving my comfortable car to get whatever I need from the store just around the corner, so many people in our world don't have clean water or a sense of safety right now. Yet, God created them just the same as He created me, and for some reason I don't understand, He placed me where He did, and them where they are. I found this video that puts it all into perspective. WARNING: it is graphic, but nothing photographed is fabricated - it all happened in real life.

After you watch this, you might walk away with a knot in your stomach, like I did. You might feel an overwhelming sense of sadness, or wish you hadn't had your good day interrupted by the tragedy you'll see, like I did. But, as the song says, "it's up to us to keep the flow," and we can't reflect the goodness and love of our Creator if we bury our heads in the sand. (and ignore the "think free" propaganda that ends the video, unless it encourages you to use your God given free will to enact some positive change)

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Who turned off the heat?

So, the locals have been talking for some time about the day the weather "breaks." When this magical day arrives, literally, overnight it will go from triple digit temperatures (it's been around 100 degrees or more since we got here four months ago) to highs in the 70s.

On Tuesday the weather guy said that would be our last day of triple digits for the rest of 2009. I doubted it - I mean, the weather man in Colorado was never quite sure what would happen from one hour to the next, so how could one here predict for weeks and months to come? And, seriously, 100+ degree temps are all we've known now for the entire time we've been here.

As promised, the milestone for this year was apparently yesterday, when it only got up to something like 77 degrees - a full 30 degrees below "normal." Today, like yesterday, the high is only about 75 degrees or so, and I'm fishing out all my jeans and long sleeve shirts (I think I'm officially a desert wimp now). And, I'm stumped as I look outside and see that things are so drastically different from every other climate I've ever lived in (albeit a limited variety).

Let the record show that the locals must know what they're talking about, and Wednesday, Sept. 30 was the day they all celebrate as the beginning of our reward for surviving the summer in the desert.

Bizarre.

I wish I could shake the looming fear that soon it will be a snowy, icy, winter tundra like every other year when fall shows up.

Monday, September 28, 2009

Distractions and disconnection

I've been noticing lately a heightened sense of the disconnection that is all around me (and in me). Everywhere I go, I see people, but they don't seem to see me or anyone else. Everyone seems to be plugged in and tuned out.


What strikes me about this is not my own sense of loneliness in a town where there are few people who recognize me - instead, it's the irony of everyone's intense desire and innate drive to CONNECT and to BE CONNECTED that is ultimately rendering them completely disconnected... to everything and everyone.

I mean, at the park, it is rare for me to see a parent who is interacting with their child or another parent, but is instead engrossed in a cell phone conversation. The other day, while stopped at a red light, I saw several people crossing the street. One person was listening intently to her iPod, another concentrating on a text message, and yet another reading a book with earphones on. No one spoke to anyone else, and didn't even seem to see them.

What I'm noticing about this cultural phenomenon, that I know I'm certainly not the first to observe, is that, through the same disconnect I see all around me, I am setting a strong pattern in my own life. I'm just as guilty as the people I see every day. I carry my cell phone everywhere I go and can read emails, text messages, and surf the internet whenever I want. And, I do. ALOT.

Think about this. Have you ever been at a coffee shop, waiting for a friend, perhaps, when you felt uncomfortable by being alone, so you dove into your cell phone to appear connected? I'm guilty of this - and what it is really saying to people around me is "back off, I'm not interested." I put up my invisible bubble.

The other day, I was standing in line at a grocery store and found myself watching the woman who was ahead of me and checking out. She was on her cell phone, having a conversation with someone, while the cashier was doing her job and bagging her items. I noticed how uncomfortable the cashier seemed because when she told the woman her total, she didn't even acknowledge her and just continued talking while she swiped her credit card. The cashier just looked down and tried to stay busy with her bagging, and the woman just kept talking. The scene made me uncomfortable, and I felt compelled to make eye contact with the cashier as if to say to her, "I see you and appreciate what you're doing." I was offended by this woman's rude behavior and was quick to judge.

Then, I realized, I'm guilty of similar offenses all day long. I ignore my husband because I'm busy texting a friend. I absentmindedly respond to my daughter when she's asking me a question because I'm busy working on the computer. I don't strike up a conversation with the mom standing next to me at the end of the school day as we wait for our children. I'm disconnected, yet long for just the opposite.

Recently, I read an article written by a man who was trying an experiment to stop multitasking. If he was in the shower, no radio. If he was having breakfast, no newspaper or tv. If he was writing, no checking emails. If he was playing with his son, no phone call interruptions, music in the background, or conversations with any other family members. He actually had to retrain himself by speaking aloud what it was he was doing so that his mind didn't wander onto another task or topic. It may sound a little over the top, but he was having to take drastic measures to unlearn so many habits he'd created. What he discovered was that it isn't true that the more we get done at once (multitask), the more productive we are. Instead, we get less done and do it less well. And, we overwhelm ourselves (stress!) and rob the people in our lives of our full attention and presence.

Multitasking is a socially acceptable way to keep yourself distracted and disconnected. And, for me, it has become an excuse to stay disconnected to avoid the emotional risk relationships can carry. So, it seems I've created an impossible situation - I'm lonely, but, when I really examine my behavior, I can see that I've worked quite hard to keep myself that way. How does that make sense?!?

Have you bought this popular lie, too? I have, and I need to return it for a full refund.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

If any gift escapes this life untested, it will certainly not be our faith

I was reading this today from Streams in The Desert, and I wanted to share it (actually, I felt compelled to). If you, like me, are feeling lonely, or stripped from earthly pleasures that you used to enjoy, hopefully this speaks peace and strength into your spirit.

"Our faith is the center of the target God aims at when He tests us, and if any gift escapes untested, it certainly will not be our faith. There is nothing that pierces faith to its very marrow - to find whether or not it is the faith of those who are immortal - like shooting the arrow of the feeling of being deserted into it. And only genuine faith will escape unharmed from the midst of the battle after having been stripped of its armor of earthly enjoyment and after having endured the circumstances coming against it that the powerful hand of God has allowed.

Faith must be tested, and the sense of feeling deserted is "the furnace heated seven times hotter than usual" (Daniel 3:19) into which it may be thrown. Blessed is the person who endures such an ordeal!" ~Charles H. Spurgeon (emphasis mine)

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Wisdom from a fellow blogger and friend

So, I've been remiss lately and not too attentive to this blog. I've tried to come up with the time and energy and creativity it takes to write the "perfect blog post," but keep coming up short and finding other things that demand my immediate attention. It has become easier to rationalize that I'll get to it soon/later, and things will certainly slow down soon so I can refocus my efforts.

I have little doubt that this drought of creative writing and reflection will give way to new posts that will reflect the daily ins and outs of life in the desert. But, for the time being, I'm simply surviving - some days are infinitely better than others, and life goes on.

While I wait on inspiration for the next words I will share with you and record for myself, I read a post from a fellow blogger and friend, who said both what I needed to hear and what I need to say. Since she wrote so eloquently and captured just the season I find myself in at this very moment, I am simply going to direct you to her post, rather than rewrite what she already did so beautifully and truthfully.

I hope this gives you a glimpse into what I, too, am currently going through as I struggle to find balance and not let a good thing become a bad one.

Still pondering... Keep checking back - I'll find my muse and my balance soon. Thanks for reading.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Celebrating 8 Years with Aubrielle!

Here are some highlights from last weekend's celebration of Aubrielle's Birthday. Enjoy!





And, please excuse the off key singing!

Friday, August 28, 2009

Top 10 Things I'm Thankful For Today

An attitude of gratitude is an important one to have, and in an effort to hone mine, here are my top 10 things I'm thankful for today:

10) Another sunny, hot day in the desert where I can admire palm trees and beautiful rock formations not too far from our home.
9) A fixed bike trailer so that I can take the kids to school on my bike with Denali in tow and Aubrielle on her bike. (Thanks, to my wonderful hubby!)
8) A beautiful (and somewhat shady) greenbelt path to ride traffic free all the way to school
7) Sleeping through the night last night with no headache to wake me up
6) Knowing that I have lifelong, deep friendships - even if those friends don't live where I do
5) Plans for the weekend to celebrate Aubrielle's 8th birthday - and all the years we've had with her as part of our family.
4) New workout shorts and shirts that I found at Target yesterday on clearance - so cheap AND cute!
3) Being reminded yesterday that I am not walking in the sand of the desert all by myself.
2) Finishing all of my blog writing (for work) before 8 am this morning! My weekend has already begun.
1) A sense of peace that all will eventually work out the way it needs to, and there are good things still to come.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Persist


So, after what has been a VERY trying last several weeks, I have found myself (once again!) stuck. Stuck pitying myself and my situation, stuck wishing for something that I cannot have, stuck asking God "why me?" at every turn.

I got a phone call from a dear friend this morning because she sensed that I needed to talk. She called me despite being in a very trying situation herself, but she wasn't focused on herself. She was focused on me and how I was doing, and I was touched and humbled. We spent some time talking about our circumstances, how they are the same, yet different. She told me about how God has made Himself very real to her in her own struggles lately and how He appears on the faces of people in her life. Now she is actively looking for Him in faces all around her, and she's finding Him.

If I pay attention, I can see Him, too. I saw Him last night in my 8 year old, who, for no apparent reason, suddenly came over to me and gave me a big hug. I saw Him in my friend who called today out of the blue. I saw Him in the very kind girl behind the counter at Fuddrucker's (where Denali and I had lunch) when she offered me Denali's lunch for free because of some promotion they are starting this evening (well after lunch is over). And, when I was driving around this afternoon, running some errands, I saw Him in a license plate. I quickly snapped a picture of it when we were stopped at a light.


I'm going to persist. I have it on very good authority that it will all be worth it someday.

Friday, August 21, 2009

What have I been up to??

First, I need to apologize for my lack of blogging this month, and part of last. This headache and the ensuing drama it has caused has left much of my "normal" life in its wake. Still working on that.

Secondly, my free time and creative juices have been poured lately into a new adventure I'm pursuing with a company that I worked for 3 years ago. I love this company, called Lifebushido, because the president and founder has big ideas and it is poised to revolutionize the work at home field by honing in on people, like me, who have chosen to stay home with kiddos, but still want to earn some extra income with very part time work.

Anyway, I've been blessed with the opportunity to take over blogging for one of this company's blogs, and a couple of other blogging assignments related to the virtual assistant services we offer. I thought I'd direct you all to the work I've been doing for Lifebushido, because, if I do say so myself, I think the content is pretty good and applies to everyone, whether they're in the business field or the CEO of their home.

Let me know what you think! And sign up to be a follower over at the Lifebushido blog, if you want, too! :)

Monday, August 10, 2009

Denali's 4th Birthday recap

For those (actually, for all of you!) who weren't here
to celebrate Denali's birthday with us, here's a snapshot of the day!
Enjoy! :)








Saturday, August 8, 2009

Celebrating Today!

Today my baby girl turns 4! I cannot believe just how fast this time has gone. Denali has brought so much laughter and joy into our house, and we are so blessed to have her in our family. Enjoy these great photos from these last four years with Denali!


Wednesday, August 5, 2009

An update, and some things I'm learning

So, turns out that I spoke a bit too soon almost two weeks ago when I proclaimed that my pain was a thing of the past. It did improve briefly, then took a sharp turn for the worse - which explains my lack of blogging all this time. I've had a couple of horrific days of intense pain that has been difficult to get on top of. Those days were followed by the past two days of waking up pain free (and in disbelief!) then settling into a very minor version of the pain I've experienced. I don't know if I'm out of the woods, or if there will be more downswings, but I'll take any improvement! Anyway, that is the short update.

I was reading in my devotional, _Streams in the Desert_ a couple of days ago, and this poem struck a chord - it's about the things we leave undone. I thought I'd share and hope it brings you some things to ponder, too.

It isn't the things you do, dear,
It's the things you leave undone,
That gives you the bitter heartache
At the setting of the sun;
The tender word unspoken,
The letter you did not write,
The flower you might have sent, dear,
Are your haunting ghosts at night.

The stone you might have lifted,
Out of your brother's way,
The bit of heartfelt counsel
You were hurried too much to say;
The loving touch of the hand, dear,
The gentle and winsome tone,
That you had no time or thought for,
With troubles enough of your own.

These little acts of kindness,
So easily out of mind,
These chances to be angels,
Which even mortals find -
They come in nights of silence,
To take away the grief,
When hope is faint and feeble,
And a drought has stopped belief.

For life is all too short, dear,
And sorrow is all too great,
To allow our slow compassion,
That tarries until too late.
And it's not the thing you do, dear,
It's the thing you leave undone,
That gives you the bitter heartache,
At the setting of the sun.

~ Adelaide Proctor


Thursday, July 23, 2009

Bright, Sunshiny Day

What a relief! After 8 (count them) days of pain, the clouds have lifted, and I am mostly pain free (save a little tiny bit of residual headache, but that's nothing)! The migraine has departed! This video is representative of how I'm feeling this most excellent day. :) Enjoy!

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Not today, I have a headache!

So, the past seven days I've had a low grade, but nagging and completely annoying headache. I wake up with it, carry it around all day long, and go to bed exhausted from it. At first, I thought maybe it was that I slept wrong, as my neck is often sore when I wake up. Then, I wondered if it was due to dehydration, as I'm not really very good at keeping up with the right amount of water intake, especially in the intense heat of the desert. So, I've been drinking A LOT of water.

I wish I could report that helped. Not so much.

Yesterday, I booked a massage because I then hypothesized that maybe it is due to muscle tension that I can feel in my back, neck, and shoulders (darn stress!). The masseuse hit every pressure point in my body and I'm sore today from the rub down, which did help my muscle tension. But, I woke up today, again, with the same piercing headache that has gripped the left side of my scalp and won't let go!

I did some research on the Internet (what better way to receive trustworthy, comprehensive medical treatment?!?), and have deduced that what I'm dealing with is a chronic daily migraine, although, technically, I can't be diagnosed with that by a real doctor until it takes 15 days from me out of the month. Only 8 days to go, I guess... sigh

Anyone else have any brilliant suggestions for ways I can eradicate the pain?!? I'm starting to get desperate. I know I can't be the only one who's suffered with this!

The upshot is, when I do find relief, I will be so thankful for being pain free - something I take for granted every day. Until now...

Friday, July 17, 2009

We're still newbies

So, you know that you've been away from Colorado too long, and don't quite fit in the desert yet with the scenario we experienced last night.

It rained. I mean more than you see rain clouds and think you might possibly have felt a drop or two before the rain cloud dried up and vanished before your eyes (often it will rain, but the moisture never makes it to the earth - it's too hot and dry).

No, this time it actually rained - the concrete patio in the back yard got wet with rain drops - we could feel it.

So, what did we newbies do? We called the children out (they must have thought there was some exotic wildlife or something else amazing to see, and they came running), and we all sat in our patio chairs in the rain. It was God's little spray park and we were game. It only lasted for about five minutes, but the novelty of it was glorious.

I'm almost embarrassed to admit it. But, in the spirit of complete honesty...

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Taking an inventory

So, I've been thinking a lot lately about lessons learned. Specifically, what I have learned about myself and who I am over the past decade. Here are a few thoughts written out, so I don't forget.

  1. I procrastinate. Especially when it's a task I don't particularly like or feel forced into completing.
  2. I love being a bit off center, and things that are just slightly unlike everything else.
  3. I am not a naturally organized person, but THRIVE when I take the time to get organized (see #1)
  4. Who knew I was a morning person? Don't love the getting up part, but really enjoy early mornings when I'm the only one up. I get so much done - it's my best time of the day
  5. I like to be challenged intellectually and I really love to make connections between philosophical ideas and real life.
  6. I am sorta creative, not totally - I love to work from templates (in just about everything!) - I guess I'm not a trail blazer without some kind of example to follow.
  7. I have to work really, really hard at not putting myself first - this is a daily battle and one that I think I'll fight all of my life. I'm naturally pretty selfish.
  8. I have a hard time respecting myself (and anyone else) when I allow life to just happen to me, and not take some ownership and ACTION. I'm finding that there is a balance to be struck here - as I am not in control, either.
  9. While I have made all kinds of proclamations and sworn all sorts of vows to never be dependent upon anyone else, I'm totally and hopelessly dependent upon my spouse. And, I still try to pretend that I'm not.
  10. I do so much better when I set goals and write them down so I can read them regularly and stay on course.
  11. I tend to set standards for myself that are ridiculously high and impossible to attain, then beat myself up for not being perfect - and I have to be careful to not do that with others, especially my children.
  12. When I don't know how to do something, no matter what it is, I figure I can read a book or look it up online to figure it out. This is how I learned how to lay tile, parent, build Web sites, train for triathlons, program our universal remote, etc. etc.
  13. Time management is a struggle for me when I don't set my schedule in advance. I believe the phrase, "if you're failing to plan, you're planning to fail" is especially true for me (see #1).
  14. When I decide I want to achieve something, I almost always do. Eventually.

What have you learned about yourself, and what are you still discovering?


Monday, July 13, 2009

10 Things I'm Thankful For Today

Here's today's list:

10) Grocery shopping and meal planning is done for the week! Hooray!
9) The girls are playing the next room (and not fighting), giving me some down time for the computer
8) Friends who keep checking in on me, even though I'm absent from Colorado, where they are
7) The precious gift of good health
6) Being reminded that, in the face of fresh grief that my friend is facing after her father passed away today, we have something to hope for when this life is over
5) Ice cold water
4) Opportunities that have been handed to us over the past 9 months, this past month, in particular, that we never could have expected
3) Feeling optimistic and hopeful for the future
2) Sticky notes and their ability to help me get organized
1) Fresh basil that is growing in my container garden and tastes amazing!

For the birds

So, we're driving in the car yesterday, headed to the grocery store and from the backseat we hear, "I'll bet the birds here fly south for the summer!" Aubrielle was musing on the intense heat (it was 108 yesterday). Her father said, "you mean they fly north for the summer?" and Bri said, "yeah, I bet they don't stay here!"

Maybe you had to be there, but it was such a funny, yet thoughtful thing for a seven year old to blurt out at random.

I hear that it is worse in the deep south with the humidity and high heat, but it is sure hard to imagine hotter than this! I'm thankful daily for swimming pools, misting systems, and spray parks!

Friday, July 10, 2009

Bump in the road

You know how you have times in your life when you're just sailing along, things are going well - better than you'd expected, and you're pretty content. You may even comment to yourself, like I did a few days ago, "how nice is it that things are going so well with (fill in your own blank here), it's been weeks since there's been any trouble in this area."

Sure enough, that's when the trouble inevitably starts, like it did for me yesterday. I've hit a bump in the road and have to change course (yet again). Sigh. This life thing is a challenge...

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Gross!


Did you know that we (yes, this includes you) swallow a quart of mucus every day? Learned that little gem at the Grossology exhibit today. Thought I'd share. :) Try working that into a conversation!!

Writer's block and some pics

So, I'm facing a bit of a writer's block here... Which explains my lack of posting lately - I'm just stumped on what to ponder next! We're headed to the Grossology exhibit at a local children's museum this afternoon, maybe that will stir up some thoughts I can share.


I'll leave you with some pics of the 4th of July holiday - in the morning, we went to a parade in our neighborhood, and had to leave early because we were so hot (it was over 100 by 11 am).


We had lots of family here, and got all the cousins' kids together, which was fun. That evening, our neighbors invited us over for a big fireworks show they explained that they do every year, but with all the family here, we politely declined. Then, when they began their show, the kids started asking to be lifted up so they could see over the fence.


Turns out, we were those neighbors, who turned down an invitation, then ended up gawking over the fence. Hopefully they weren't too offended!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

10 Things I'm Thankful For Today

I've been remiss lately in recording the things I'm thankful for, so here goes:

10) The sunshine and thorough warmth that we feel whenever we're outside (and today it's only in the low 90s!!)

9) Our favorite spray park with an attached play area that is under a canopy to protect the kids from the heat (and where we spent a good portion of this morning!)

8) Time with family from out of town (my mom is here this week, my aunt and cousins will be here tomorrow)

7) Cell phones that allow me to keep in touch with good friends no matter where either of us is

6) Good, soul nourishing music (Go Fish!) that my oldest daughter is blasting in the next room as I write

5) Homemade ice cream that we're going to make this afternoon (yum!)

4) The way food always tastes so much better when you pack it up for a picnic

3) My husband, who works very hard to show me that he loves me, and recently has been bringing me bouquets of flowers every Friday (even though I love him whether he does this or not!)

2) My youngest daughter who closes her eyes and relishes whenever I give her a hug or kiss, then responds by giving me an eskimo kiss (it's our little thing)

1) The feeling that right now, at this moment, I'm on the path I am supposed to be on, and it's OK that I don't know just where it leads

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

This is a test...


So, we went to see the movie _Up_ yesterday (incredible film, btw) - you really should see it. Beautiful and full of relevant life lessons and great messages.

So, there was this one scene (don't worry, I won't spoil anything) when the main character has to make a choice. A choice that is between something that is deeply important to him (understandably) and something that should be deeply important to all of us, but something the character isn't all that attached to, comparatively speaking.

At that moment, I was really (I mean, REALLY) identifying with the main character and his dilemma. I got so wrapped up in his situation that I lost sight of what the right choice was. I had to actually ask myself what it was and I wasn't sure for a moment. Well, in the spirit of total honesty, I asked myself because my 7 year old daughter was talking in my ear and asked me, "Momma, what is the right choice?" In that moment, I really wasn't sure, and as I write this, I'm baffled and amazed at how easily and completely I lost sight of truth and the stark difference between right and wrong. My judgement was clouded, just like the character's was, because of my own human emotion and selfishness.

I found myself saying the same things the character in the movie was - "I didn't ask for this!" and "It's none of my concern!" when faced with the consequences that would fall upon one of the other characters if I, ahem, the main character chose what he really wanted. It doesn't help that I've faced a very similar loss lately to the one he was facing if he chose against his desires - he would be giving up his home where all his memories were made. I mean, I was really feeling for the poor guy, ahem, myself (once again!).

I was shaken abruptly back into reality when my daughter answered her own question, saying, "the right choice is A because that is really more important than B, right momma?" (she did not say 'A' and 'B', I'm omitting the details so as not to spoil the movie for you!) A was the universally important choice, the one that valued the life and well-being of another character, and B was the personally important choice to the main character. My 7 year old knew the answer right away after considering the options, and I did not until she told me how she came to that conclusion! It was such an 'Aha' moment. I think I told her like 10 times how she was right, that 'A' was absolutely the right choice. Almost as though repeating it would forever etch it in my own brain so I'd never forget that again!

I'm not sure whether to be more overwhelmed with complete pride for my daughter, who obviously has absorbed some truth and is learning to filter real life through that truth, or with complete horror over my own sudden amnesia about that same truth because of my personal struggle with materialism and wanting to put my needs before others'.

I was reminded of this scene this morning while reading my devotional, which spoke about how we are put to the test time and time again in this life with the purpose of learning to do the right thing, rather than just saying what we'll do if faced with certain circumstances. Our true character is shown by what we do, not by just what we say we'll do.

This is a test.

I want to pass the way my daughter did yesterday.

Well done, Aubrielle.

Friday, June 26, 2009

Our day at the beach

I'm FINALLY getting some shots uploaded from last weekend when we were at the beach. Enjoy! (Makes me want to go back this weekend...) :)






A BIG HUGE THANK YOU to Aunt Keri and Herb for making our stay on the beach possible for Father's Day! :) We had an awesome time!